First of all, Remember to enjoy every moments throught those propositions, goahead with the ones you feel free to explore, and you'll both reach climax !

1) Arch your back. In doggy, when you're on your side and he's in mish position, whenever possible. For some reason, men find women's arched backs sexier. I think because it accentuates your curves. Also, in doggy, look back at him and let him see your face and how good he's making you feel.

2) Tell him you want to see the penetration, and actually watch it. Let it turn you on. It turns him on knowing that you want to watch his dick slide into you. A good position for this is when you're on top, but instead of your knees being on the bed, kind of squat and lean back so that you're more "scooting" onto his dick than grinding on it or bouncing on it. Gives him a great visual and you can look down and see him and the action as well.

3) Tell HIM when you want to change positions or when you want him to eat your pussy or slap your ass or something. Taking the initiative and being confident in telling him what you want is a turn on.

4) Buy sexy lingerie and surprise him by wearing it when he's not really expecting it. Also wear heels and make up. While wearing said lingerie, bring him a beer or make him a sandwich or some such stupid house-wifely shit. And leave the heels on during sex. Hell, leave some of the lingerie on too and just pull things down or to the side so he can have access to the goodie bits.

5) While he's fucking you, hold on to his leg or back or head (if he's eating you out). Pull him into you when you're feeling it, dig your nails into him if he's getting a good spot, etc. Buck your hips a bit, especially in doggy or some other position where you have a modicum of control. It shows your enthusiasm and how hungry you are for him.

6) Send him a text message in the middle of the day about how much you want to suck his dick. Be graphic and specific, talk about what your lips look like when they're wrapped around him, mention your eyes looking up at him with a particular emotion/thought in them, etc. Also send him messages about how much you liked when he did such-and-such a thing, and tell him what you want him to do next time. It's a good way to communicate about your wants/desires in a sexy and non-threatening/awkward way.

7) When you're giving him a blow job with you on your knees and him standing (or sitting at the edge of the bed or chair), look up at him like a) you've never seen a dick as big as his before and it kind of scares you in a sexy/excited kind of way b) like you're starving and his cock is the best meal of your life or c) that you're the most bad-assiest chick on the face of the planet and you're going to rock his world.

8) Look up some stereotypical porn star modeling positions (check freeones maybe?) and practice them in the mirror so you know how they look with your body. Practice the standing up kind and ones you can do in/on the bed. After a bit of sexy talk and warming up in another room, get up boldly and tell him to meet you in the bedroom in 3-5 minutes (however long it will take you quickly change into lingerie and heals but not long enough that his boner/excitement goes down all the way), and when he opens the door, be in one of those positions. Whenever you change positions, somehow sneak some of these in if you can. A word to the wise--these girls have been posing like this for quite a while and it takes a bit of muscle memory and flexibility to get them right. Especially back arching while standing and looking back at him. Dont hurt yourself.

9) When he's eating your pussy, dont just lay all the way down, close your eyes and face the ceiling. At least not all the time (sometimes you get lost in the moment and let yourself!). Instead, prop yourself up on your elbows, maybe hold onto your boobs (from the side so he can still see your nipples and you give yourself some cleavage) and play with your nipples or something while making eye contact with him. But again, probably do this when he first starts, but let yourself fall into a position that's comfortable for you once it starts heating up. You aren't just performing for him, you want to enjoy it too. And HE wants you to enjoy it also!

10) Profit. A word to the wise--dont do all of these things every time you have sex. Use them as spice, unless a point or two you really enjoy doing or doesn't break your mojo. As you can see, these things are all about makinghim turned on, but sex is a two way street. You want to enjoy yourself too and not be doing all this work all the time. Plus, if you do these things every time you have sex, he's going to expect it and be disappointed when you dont deliver or wonder what went wrong. If you add a bit of this as spice every so often, it keeps things interested and him wanting more and wondering what else you have up your sleeve.

The Encyclopedia Of Smut: M Is For Masturbation

For real, masturbation is an inexhaustible topic; you simply cannot say enough good things about it! Well, more precisely, we can’t say enough good things about it. And since it’s National Masturbation Month when we happen to be on the M entry of our encyclopedia, this is the perfect chance to spend some quality time on the topic of autoerotic pleasure.

We figure that you probably know what masturbation is and how it’s done, so we’re going to focus on public perceptions of wanking and how the truest expression of self-love works as a performative act.

Masturbation: Healthier Than Salad

We’re not trying to talk smack about salad–you should always make sure to eat healthy and supply yourself with fiber–we’re just trying to sell you on this blood pressure reducing, immune system boosting, heart helping, sinus clearing sleep aid known as Touching Yourself. Many of the studies that link masturbation to health benefits base their findings on correlation, not causation, but the fact remains that there are a bunch of positive physical effects associated with the act. Even Fox News says so.

And let’s not forget the mental and social effects! Masturbation is the safest form of sex around, it can relieve depression and boost self-esteem, and whether you’re doing it alone or with a loved one, it teaches you about sexual pleasure and expression better than anything else. Clearly, there are a lot of positive reasons to be a fan of this business, and we’re not saying it can’t be funny at times–Jason Biggs putting his penis in a pie will always amuse us–but it shouldn’t be shameful, taboo, or kept away from people.

How This Plays Out in Porn

Generally, masturbation is considered one of the least hardcore acts in porn. It’s assumed that if a performer is willing to show their genitals, then they’re willing to touch them as well. Even glamorous softcore photos will depict the act, perhaps with a model suggestively putting their hands in their undies. (In fact, masturbation–both explicit and implied–has been shown in art throughout history; prehistoric rock paintings show it, marble statues of saints constructed in the Renaissance show it, and we bet you probably saw an advertisement at a bus stop today that suggested it.) As far as the mainstream porn-to-consumer dialogue goes, masturbation is cast as less satisfying and exciting than acts that involve stimulation with the help of others. There are exceptions though.

For example, we know a certain popular lady pornstar (who shall remain nameless) who has filmed herself doing all sorts of hardcore acts in her career and refuses to masturbate in front of a camera. Why? Because it’s one thing to have sex with another person and have that be filmed so that other people can see it, but it’s entirely different for her to have sex with herself–something that no one needs to see, not even her–and then have others watch. Her privacy has nothing to do with embarrassment; it’s simply based on the intimacy and sanctity of her relationship with herself.

And for every person who feels as this pornstar does, there are just as many who want to be watched, even if all they show is a tiny portion of their bodies. Even though masturbation might not be the most popular element of professional porn, it’s extremely popular in amateur porn videos and on webcam shows. If amateur tube sites weren’t flooded with pirated material, we bet that the majority of videos would be solo shows.

Why We Like to Watch

Well, there’s voyeurism; you could use this reason to explain why watching any type of porn is fun, but it’s still an important aspect watching solo work. Plus, as we mentioned in the previous section, watching someone touch themselves means you’re looking at a very, very private moment. Even if the masturbator is clearly performing for the camera, that person is still touching themselves in a specific way that only they can.

Empathy also comes into play. We believe that engaging with all porn involves some identification with and projection onto the subject or subjects, but it’s slightly different when you’re looking at a single person. Everybody can (and hopefully does) jack off, so you can readily relate your personal experiences with the masturbating person on screen in a way that you might not be able to with a person participating in a double penetration scene.

And let’s not forget that it’s plain ol’ arousing as hell to watch someone get off with their homegrown favorite techniques. No matter how good your partner is in bed, nobody does you like you.

Ugh, no.

Ok, we’ll be adult about this. No scientific study has ever linked masturbation to negative physical or mental effects. Compulsive masturbation is not a disease, but is merely a symptom of a larger psychological issue. There’s definitely a risk of injuring yourself with overzealous hand motions or by using foreign objects, but that’s not masturbation’s fault; you could poke yourself in the eye with your fork, but no one’s going to say dinner is dangerous.

Gone are the days when people say that pleasuring yourself will give you hairy palms and strike you blind, but there are still certain purveyors of folk wisdom who warn against masturbating too much. AskMen has an article called“Negative Side Effects of Masturbation” in which they warn that jerking it too often can make it difficult to reach climax, especially with others. They also mention something about how the post-orgasm come down can dredge up guilt and other dark feelings, but again, that’s not masturbation’s fault.

It’s worth noting that we were unable to find a single article about the negative effects of female masturbation. Keep at it, ladies!

The Masturbate-a-Thon is Coming!

We’re sure all this talk about wanking has made you tired of reading, and we respect that, but we just wanted to mention that the Masturbate-a-Thon (at least one, probably more) is happening this month! If you’re going to be in San Francisco on May 27th, you should consider heading on down to the Center for Sex & Culture and participating in this phenomenal event. With a small entry fee and/or pledges from others, you touch yourself for as long as you want/can in a safe and friendly environment, and the money you earn helps support the non-profit CSC and all of the sex positive work they do. Even though they don’t think it should be a competitive event, they still give awards to whoever produces the most orgasms and spends the longest time masturbating.

Masturbate-a-Thons usually take place in other cities around the world, but we currently haven’t heard about any yet. But don’t fret, if you can’t make it to California for the sake of self-fornication, you can still play along at home with CSC’s live blogging and Twitter updates. They’ve even hinted at a possible voyeur room at their Masturbate-a-Thon. Save the date, folks!

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